That works too. Assigning too much meaning to small events can be counterproductive, but at the same time, many of us inspect our behaviours closely, actions and reactions to see patterns of behaviours and the subtle tendencies that we cannot normally control.
Many of us here have been advised to closely observe ourselves, and it can make mountains out of molehills sometimes.
Obsidian, there is a hundred different reasons why he said what he said, but you are right, F it, who cares? You tried to reconnect, you offered your help, these are all positive things.