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Old Oct 04, 2017, 01:55 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
This discussion of dissociation is interesting to me because my T has said I dissociate a lot during my sessions. I'm not sure how she knows because it happens even when I'm looking at her. I'm not present, she says.

Does direct eye contact bring you back, or doesn't that help? My T put her feet on top of mine as a way to ground me. Peaches, has your T done anything like that?

T knows when my mind is elsewhere more than I know. I don't know if it's that I'm easy to read, or if she's very attuned to me. It must be because their job is to pay close attention to our body language.

Hi Rainbow,

No, my t has never put her feet on mine. Sometimes if our session is over, and she is afraid that I am still not fully present, she will have us stand up and throw a fuzzy pillow back and forth, or stretch and move around, feel my feet holding me up, notice things in the room, and stuff like that.

I'm not sure if looking in her eyes helps ground me. Hmm...I have to think about it...

I think it depends on which part of me is present. If it's the dissociated part of me feels like a child part, it is almost impossible to look in her eyes...and if I do, it seems to keep me in that dissociated state.

Trying to notice different things around the room helps ground me more, or things like throwing the pillow with her.
Thanks for this!
rainbow8