Thanks I may try to test the waters in that area a bit. I just hate appearing clueless about everything.

As for you being a made of steel and not caring for others, you don't project that image in your PC posts. I find your post very supportive and you seem to show your ability to care for others.

I know I say a lot of things here that I would not ever say in RL. However, there are times when I've had some carryover to my RL. I would have never raised some of the issues I have in therapy, if I hadn't expressed and dialogged them here first and got encouragement from you and others.

Maybe that fact that some of your old friends are doing double-takes when they see changed behavior is a good thing. Good friends will accept and encourage these changes.