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Originally Posted by ruh roh
LT, I don't get why T2 and MC want you to think about why you wouldn't want them to talk, as if that indicates a problem of some kind. I see it as a way to keep things less complicated, especially since you worry so much. It adds another layer of wondering if so and so is talking to so and so and what does each one say, and so on. They should each feel confident enough in their own work, and confident in you, that you can take what works for you from each of them.
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Thanks, RR. I'm not sure if MC feels that way or not--he didn't bring it up in session or anything, even when I talked for a few minutes about T2 Monday. But it definitely sounds like T2 feels that way. I just feel like part of what complicated things for me with T1 and MC was that they worked together, and I'd given them permission to communicate about me (in retrospect, perhaps I should have revoked that permission once the whole transference thing started...). Granted, T2 used to work with MC (and for a bit with T1), but I'm generally OK with that, as he stressed the importance of the confidentiality aspect when I first asked him about whether it would be an issue that he knew him. But if I give them permission to talk about me...then that whole confidentiality thing goes out the window, right?
It was also a bit different with T1, as I'd been seeing her for maybe a year and a half, 2 years before we started seeing MC. So I already had lots of trust built up in her. So when she told me she'd only share things with him that I explicitly approved (like she'd ask me what was OK to share with him), I trusted that she'd keep my confidence. I've known T2 less than a month. I'm under the impression he's a good, ethical T, but I don't have that trust built up. Hopefully he'll understand that and my reasons for not wanting him to talk to MC (or T1)--at least, not right now. (I don't care if he talks to my p-doc, but he said he didn't think that was necessary.)