Hey,

I wouldn't like to do EMDR. I know that some people really do find a benefit from it, but it is not something that I would like to do. I don't think that the troubles you are having with your EMDR therapist have a great deal to do with her being an EMDR therapist, but I'd have trouble with those things whether it was in the context of EMDR or not...

> Every session, she schools me on how whatever problem I have is related to my abuse history.

So she has a narrative explanation of your problems all sorted out for herself. In this narrative you are the victim and your being the victim is what explains all your troubles. I would have trouble swallowing that life story, too. In particular... Each individual needs to find their own narrative explanation and it is fairly invalidating for a person to try and impose their narrative understanding of another person's life onto that person. Even if... The narrative explanation that she has come to of her own life (that helped her) is that she is a victim... That doesn't give her the right to try and impose that kind of explanation onto you and your life.

> She probes for symptoms of abuse. Example, asking me.. so do you have trouble being intimate with men? Many women of abuse do. or asking me.. do you feel u are a good person or bad?

That would be enough to get me to quit. I have enough problems without people suggesting more problems to me...

Why would your 'real t' be disappointed if you stop the EMDR?