I think there are many influences from childhood that largely determine our feelings about sex and what does
and doesn't turn us on. I think it's all very specific to the individual and hard to understand, because I think when our feelings about sex initially develop we are very young - some say before the age of 5 - so we really don't remember why we feel the way we do. Something traumatic could have happened to us, but I also think it's just the vibes we pick up from the people around us and whether our care givers make us feel physically accepted and loved.

I have read a lot about sexual desire the last couple of years and have learned that there is much I won't understand and I therefore tread lightly when it comes to judging myself or anyone else.