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Originally Posted by Concerned8884
We have been in couples counseling for 2 years. It has been immensely helpful and we are very happy in all other ways but this has come up and our counselor thinks he should find an individual therapist or couples sex therapy. I guess I just wonder if there is anything I can do. I feel really helpless. And I am def internalizing this as a direct rejection of me.
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I had that problem with my husband and I internalized it and felt ugly, unwanted, not at all sexy. I was devestated. I finally came to accept the fact that it WAS NOT ME. It is totally his issue. He was so afraid he would lose his erection that he was afraid to try. He is overweight and takes tons of blood pressure medicine that causes erectile dysfunction.
We never did resume a sexual relationship. But I'm ok with it now because I don't feel like I'm less of a person. Actually I don't miss it. But I think I had enough sex in my younger days to satisfy 10 people
HOWEVER, you need to get clear in your head whether or not you can live in no sex marriage. If you ultimately decide that you can't do that it doesnt make you a bad person.
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