Hey Bluesguy,

PC hates me today, I hit the backspace button and instead of correcting my typo, it kicked me off PC entirely, then I couldn’t remember where you posted and had to look at all Mrs’ posts to find it again. I’m glad that your able to get it all off your chest and I hope it made you feel better. So here’s my two cents, a lot of clichés I know but that doesn’t make it any less relevant.

I don’t know of anyone that can go back “home” without the skeletons from the closet rattling. It’s just a fact of life, there’s good and bad everywhere. Every place you live will have advantages and disadvantages, every job you work there’ll be the *** that gets all the perks and does the least amount of work.

Growing up is hard. For the life of me I CANNOT understand why anyone ever said that your teenage years are the best of you life, because I have never met anyone that didn’t have issues to deal with growing up.

In my opinion, the source of a lot of your problems is that you’re not comfortable with you. Until you are, nothing is going to go right. You will never have a healthy relationship until you’re able to appreciate yourself and value what you can bring to the relationship.

Are you chasing these girls that are unattainable because you don’t think you deserve a nice, decent girl of your own. For every positive point you buried in your post you listed 10 bad ones. Life is an ever changing process you didn’t miss your chance to form your personality, you do that every second of every day, with every decision you make.

The only person on the planet that can defeat you and beat you down is the one that looks back at you from the mirror. You and he need to come to an agreement and make friends. If you can’t do that on your own, think about therapy.

Your virtues my dear are that you’re introspective, intelligent, and courageous. Dying is easy, it’s living that hard!

The mom in me is compelled to point out that self-medication via drugs and or alcohol only makes your depression worse. You’ll never find a good answer at the bottle of a bottle, just a rotten worm.

Nothing worthwhile is easy! Take the first step contact a doctor to get your depression under control. With a chemical imbalance in your brain, even your brain is your enemy. Get that under control. Then look around and take stock in the people that you are surrounding yourself with. If they’re toxic, cut them loose.

Once you’ve surrounded yourself with good people, take a look at the new friends. Romance is usually born from a good friendship. One last tip, be careful about putting the object of your desires on a pedestal, we all have our faults, and it hurts when you fall that far. Good luck!