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Old Oct 06, 2017, 02:08 AM
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Originally Posted by SoupDragon View Post
I can't control when they surface. My strategies when they arise, have been to try and push them away, avoid them, panic and react to them.

However, I am now starting to sit with them and observe them in a more rational way. Practice the grounding, relaxation stuff when they arise, tell myself I am ok right now, they are "just" thoughts, not happening to me right now.

However, with the images, I also have feelings towards the other people associated with them and feelings about myself. That has been harder to work through and I'm not there yet. But slowly (very), I have times when I can let go of the negative feelings. I think it just takes time and a slow chipping away of things.
I guess control is a strong word to use. According to my therapist my whole life has been avoidance driven. I got so tired of hearing her say that's avoidance, I just stop talking. So maybe I'm sitting with them in silence now, or frozen in that time and space with them. Afraid to move, afraid to speak. I think time and learning skills is the answer, but why does that have to be so hard?
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