I found a boyfriend who is lovely and kind and fun - he just acts like a single person. He has a grown up son, is a widower and has always dreamed of doing a lot of things. I have four grownup children and I am happy when I am doing things with them. It has been puzzling on how to reinvent myself, I am going to leave my boyfriend, and see how I can enjoy life while being a fifty three year old divorced mom. It is hard to act without fear, I thought I would never even get laid again.