Thanks, everyone.........i talked to a lawyer and he said that there isn't much that can be done now...no abuse can be proved...so first sister contacted him and will stay in touch with him now. the department of human services won't get involved because no abuse can be proved yet......the first sister is going to go with me to see the patient. plus, i'm writing to her and giving them to the "good" daughter.......calling her won't work. they answer the phone. one part of me is so relieved to not be there with the dysfunctional family members but, the core of me is so upset because i know that i stood between her and the idiot son in law.....long sigh..........my daughter is going to go over and see if she can see her. doubtful, but they will know that we're not backing off entirely. i'm staying really busy......getting ready for big move to Austin.....and keeping my "mind" occupied. Fayeroe has been extra sweet and all of the cats slept on me last night.......huge sigh.........when i throw one off, two more get on........thanks, again, friends....this has really been very bizarre and upsetting. but, the patient knows i love her and that is good......