I had my T on too much of a pedestal to imagine being comfortable with her. She always dressed well and I remember how shocked I was when she learned and shared that we had taken the same sailing classes; I couldn't see her doing some of the activities she said she did, I just couldn't see her "relaxed". I have seen her "bored" when she'd be doodling as we had a session where I wasn't saying anything :-) but I guess the responsiveness of her made me always picture her as "alert" and ready to "spring" into action Doesn't go with relaxed in my mind.