susan, Yes I want to own the person, want to merge with them...and the agony comes now knowing I am doing this and a prisoner of my own defects.

Echoes, she responds and has just got back in touch with me wanting me to explain to her what is going on for me and I told her that I dont want to be this dependent on anyone other again and she now says if I can forgive her we will be ok....now I feel she wants me to want her as much as I want to want her,,,but really don't want to ever go back to taht place, I think I want some time to think about this and not just go back to how it was....