For me, I can feel how my t feels about me. I don’t need to ask him as I know. I think our t’s love us in their own way, whether that’s a therauputic love, or a kind of work love, but I do think it’s a unique love. I try to liken it to my work. I’m a teacher of kids who have challenging behaviour. Because of their issues, I get to have a unique relationship with them & do have a kind of love for them, especially when you can see their pain.
I think if you want to hear the words from your t, you may be disappointed, but maybe ask What kind of feelings do they have for you?