I've been married to my husband for 36 years. He has OCD that permeates every aspect of his life. While we were raising our children his OCD, while very bad, was not as severe as it is now. It's become worse with age. He and I love each other dearly and we are best friends. BUT we cannot live together because of his OCD. He's a hoarder and I literally cannot move through his house. So I live in an apartment one mile from him. I make the best of an extremely challenging situation, but if I stop and really think about it...well, my life is HARD because of my husband's mental illness. And it's hard on our children (grown now), too.

My husband is also a Vietnam vet and does receive therapy and meds from the VA. Helps a little bit, but not much.