hi lennie, just my opinion but i'd show them this very post!!! this is exactly the stuff we need to work on when we have BPD. it's natural you feel this way...we get it extra extreme and our defenses go haywire...but this is what your inner work is about.

i'd show them, that way you can maintain a distance from it and then say...what do i do????

perhaps it will open up an area for discussion that will help alleviate your fears.

good luck hon!!
susan