How would you all feel if.. you have always been there and been involved in the lives of your now Adult children, who now have families. We have never had any quarrels... Their father & I would drop anything We're doing to help them out in any way.. Then when special occasions come up, they shrug us off, decline our invites... saying, like.. We want to spend a quiet supper together alone... or they invite other family over for the holiday for supper/events, and the only way we find out is when we are told they can't come to our house since they have other family invited over for supper.... but we could come too, if we want.... Feeling like we are second rated, insignificant in their lives....