(((((AAAAA))))) I know what you mean. I too have an agreement with Moggles that I do not want heroic measures, I have DNR on file with Hospital. I trust moggles to carry out my wishes if I should be incapacitated to do so.

SC, you went into that to help people, and there is one thing you can do to help yourself with this: some people refuse to help themselves and no matter what you do, they win out. With that in mind...help as help can, but know when to step away and protect yourself. Another thing that might help seeing as how you were comforted by what you did the 1st time around is to get yourself soem candles, and give yourself some quiet time to ponder and reflect and gain inner balance. Do it as often as needed...Having so sort of plan like that helps a lot. I know one person wrote a letter type reminder to herself that said just how far she would go before backing off. Your resources can go to another person when one doesnt want your help.

melanie