Completely agree. I would never ask or expect my therapist to love me; that's not his job, and it's an unfair thing to ask, imo. To me it's like an employer asking an employee if they're job hunting. By asking, they've put me in an awkward situation and forfeited their right to the truth.

If my therapist ever said he loved me I would run a mile. I only expect a therapist to be empathetic and care about my mental wellbeing. I have affection and a lot of respect for my therapist, and I suspect he would say the same about me. But love? That's for friends and family--and people who aren't getting paid to spend time with me.

If you feel like you need love from your therapist, I think it would be useful to ask him/her how you build relationships where you can receive the love you're craving--outside their office. Seeking love from someone you're paying strikes me as a dead end, imo.