Oh dear ((((((((((((((( M F )))))))))))))))))
I can "see" now that your ex wants control of you and everything is about him. There is no way that this relationship would ever be peaceful and loving towards you unless he saw the error of his ways and received help for it.
Please take good care of YOU through all of this. Be watchful, keep tabs on him and how he is treating you. Watch for escalation in his bad behavior towards you. Keep record of his calls/emails and any other communication from him. If nothing else, it will give you a clear picture of his intentions.

sabby