Yeah, I guess a lot of that is pretty controlling, too, isn't it... I hadn't really thought of that.

It seems unlikely that the current attempts to engage me (whether in conversation or argument, I'm not sure) will escalate to more, though. His ex-wife, whom I like very much, has maintained a friendship with him for years, though their children have been adults for some time now, so I consider that indicative that he only goes so far.

Thanks to you both for your input - and the loan of the shoulders... it's truly appreciated.