I think this is a hard thing to ask, and a hard thing to know how to answer. If you are like me, you may not be sure what love is: I love ice cream. I love my daughter. I love my husband. I love my dad, I love my dog. But the feelings I have for those 5 are quite different.

Does love mean being willing to sacrifice for someone? Does it mean that you put their good above yours? That you are willing to go the extra mile for them? That you think about them alot? That you want to spend time with them?

If it were me, I probably would not ask; there are people who would say that they love me that do not (IMO) act loving toward me. So for me, regardless of the answer, it would probably be confusing.

If it were important for me to be honest about my feelings on this with T, I might say that I found myself wanting to know if T loved me. I doubt your T will be surprised to hear you say that.