I feel for you. I too had people like that in my life. To get myself off crack, I had to pack up my bags and move--I changed my cell phone number and did not give it out--I just started over in a new area. It was such a relief not to have to deal with the type of people you are describing. If moving is not an option, the only solution you have is to stick to your word and not give in to her begging. Eventually, she will go away...I hope.

I think you are showing great compassion when you see that she is really suffering without your enabling her.

I understand your frustration and I hope this all works out for the best. More than anything, I hope you are staying clean and sober. For the sake of your husband, your kids and most importantly, yourself.