Well done Scarlet. That was very brave of you & I feel that you have really thought this through. Might I suggest you tape the conversation you have with your t. Not because of anything negative, but I know with myself, if I’m anxious to discuss something so important to me, I tend to only hear certain things & miss other things, which may be very valuable to you. One thing I do know is, that your t has an element of ‘therapeutic love’ for you, which is not like anything else we have with others. xXx