BLUIENAVYGIRLIE, I struggle with being intimate--although I "know" sex is not the answer, sometimes, it feels like the only way I can really intimately connect with another person. I can't say that I have many answers for you--this is something I am working on right now. Overall, I think I am confused about love--what is true love--what is infatuation and how does sex fit into the picture? I know, without a doubt, my abuse has kinda warped my feelings and mind when it comes to all this...I am going to continue to work on it and keep trying to come to an understanding that I can live with.