mouse I understand the merge idea. I never thought of it that way but I like that. I just get so attached and I want to be with that person all the time. I don't see others act that way so I've always felt very ashamed of it. I thnk it's why I stayed alone. Now my son is grown and gone off to live his life, I'm alone and I don't want to be alone but I don't know how to be with someone..It seems so hopeless sometimes.