I guess I mean, it's like he's the only man that is in your life on your own terms. When people have abandonment fears it can feel like they will have to compromise their own wants and needs or boundaries, in order to keep others involved in their life. But then, the reason that T would feel different is because of the sense that he is there for you, while not treating you badly or betraying your trust in the way the men in your life may have done.