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Which is all well and good but any client who raises this topic needs to be prepared that the answer might not be yes. Some patients have a lot of trauma, attachment issues, abandonment issues etc. It’s a really delicate subject that can potentially hurt a client if they don’t get the answer they want. My discomfort would solely be around those things and not the concept of love itself. Again I have merely presented two perspectives for the OP to consider.
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It is exactly this reason that I have not directly asked my T if she loves me. I tell her I believe she loves me and I tell her I have felt love by her. I do ask her in my journal that I give her. I do so because all of these statements give her information about where I am with things and how her interventions are affecting me.
Do I think she loves me - most days. Do I think she would tell me? Maybe someday, maybe not - I'd probably get the more generic,
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I care DEEPLY about you. You are a very special, unique person and I believe that you are going to do great things in your life. I am privileged to be part of your journey.
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answer. I have already gotten this type of information over the course of the last 2 yrs. She has also stated that she went into this type of practice because of wanting to have this type of role in people's lives; which leads me to feel that she tends to have a level or type of love for all of her clients.
Also, as pointed out by others on the thread, love can be defined in so many different ways. She may feel that what she is doing is not love but deep caring, where as I define those same feelings/actions as love.
Scarlet - good job on the email, congrats on the wedding, I am glad that she responded in a way that was a positive experience for you. This is a delicate topic and you showed courage in asking for something you wanted.