Thanks to all of you. I met with her at her college before Christmas for lunch. I told her that we were getting close to retirement, and could not hand out money. My husband built her new cabinets for her kitchen last year after she threw a tantrum, got angry at her husband for not doing what she wanted him to, and took a crowbar, etc., and completely tore out the kitchen she had.We footed half the bill for the materials for that out of pity for her husband. She got about 4 or 5 thousand dollars worth of cabinets for 500 dollars out of their pocket, and they are beautiful cabinets. She also informed me that the only time Dad called them was when he wanted something from them. Those little things he wants are mower parts that the son-in-law can get at cost, and we pay for them. Even as I write this, and read it back to myself, and know that this is not even touching all the things she does, I should write a book.