I would like to know why I have so many people commenting on my life, on who I am, what I do, and where I am going, now that I am divorced. I am a 53 year old divorcee, left, trying to live with joy. It feels like I don't have the protection of being a mom, so it's a free for all. I am sexual, powerful, opinionated, full of laughter and learning. Perhaps we could have a "Be kind to 50 year old women day." It is mostly my ex leading the target practice but it feels really vulnerable out here trying to live with joy.