I agree to go to counseling. It can work wonders for you and him. If he choses not to go, seriously consider going by yourself. Your marriage may not be completely on the rocks yet. But take it from someone whose husband decided to go out and cheat instead of dealing with the problems in the marriage.

Maybe you guys need the counseling to find out what's bothering both of you because I agree with the above that you guys are lacking something that's causing you to feel that way as well as him. I can tell you that my husband and I are in counseling separately and probably should have done it long before we did, but I do believe that marriage counseling would have been beneficial but instead, my marriage is headed for divorce. I say if you want things to work and you are a willing participant and so is he, you have a chance at improving things and who knows, it might be the best for you guys to better understand each other. I hope that he's a willing participant becuase unfortunately, I wasn't so lucky. Fight for your marriage if that's what you want.

I wish you good luck and hope that you guys are able to work things out.