Hi everyone!

So i recently posted about my boyfriend being demanding about wanting sex and how he thinks its my fault that we wasn't having it as much.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt & to show him i am willing to put the effort in i made love coupons for him, so he couldn't say it was me who was turning him away. He doesn't use them but still says im the reason we are not having sex. Yes i don't just go for it anymore but i personally feel like he doesn't want to have sex with me with the way he is treating me and its hard to get into the mood.

He causes arguments over nothing and i am forever defending myself and then sitting him down and explaining the way he is making me feel but its like it goes in one ear and out the other.

If i don't feel like swimming when he wants to go, he calls me boring.
If i don't want to go to the gym at the same time as him, he says for me not to complain if i gain weight.
He asks me where i would like to eat at night, then tuts at what i pick and makes negative comments on everything i suggest.
He says he wants to spend time with me but then picks stuff to do that he knows i don't particularly like to do.
I think he is doing this on purpose because he knows i will say no and then he has a reason to blame any problems on me. I go with him most of the time to keep him happy but when i don't he is so rude.

It may well be my fault as well but i try to sit and tell him how hes making me feel and i ask him how he feels about me, he just goes into a self pity sink hole and tells me to go find someone better because he treats me so bad. I explain that i love him and i just want him to think about what he says before he says in and think about how it may upset me.
I just want him to understand how i am hearing things and how he is making me feel, but he always manages to swing it back around to being my fault.

Please please give me some advice, im not ready to give up, but i have to find a way to make my boyfriend see my efforts.

Thanks in advance.