Thank you so much for sharing. Oh my gosh, how I can relate to that!!! That is almost a regular response by me. Well, was anyhow. I still do it, but have learned to vocalize more for clarification. In therapy, I learned that I thought I had the same sixth sense you did that day, but most importantly, I thought that others had it with me as well...that they could read my mind to...despite my actions and everything else that were to the contrary. I so get that, and do that still. In fact, I have to work hard not to do that.

I think that's part of what's bothering me in my relationship with my husband and child right now, but what I'm more referring to here is, for instance, my mother.

Statements like, "You do for everybody and their brother, but I don't seem to be on that list at all" really get to me. When she follows it by "emotional punishments" and restrictions and dismissals, it hurts. I'm referring more to the blatant, and where there are no assumptions on my part.

That's going on here, and then some, and when it's with people you care about so much, it really hurts all the more, I think.

Thank you again for sharing, because it just jerked a knot in my tail about something I have going on with hubby right now.

KD