This guy sounds really self centered, very controlling, maybe even a narcissist. Especially the part where he makes it all about him and climbs in his pity pot. Oh please...gimme a break.

There is no way you are going to change him or "make" him see your point of view. You have gone way above and beyond the call of duty here.

It may be time to stand back and do some soul searching. Ask yourself, what is about me that I feel like I need to stay in a relationship where I am being abused and belittled by a man? Don't I deserve better? If I don't think I deserve better ....why is that?