What got me about my father was how he would always grumble that I was the one who never phoned him. But he was the adult and I would say you have my mobile number so my mum won't even answer. I didn't want to see him more often anyway. It was OK when I was young and didn't know any better. I only had to see him from nine tlll lunch. We would go swimming then to the cafe up stairs.
It was so difficult because he would say my brother was my "illigetimate" brother or imply he was a "bast#4d" as my mum wasn't married to my step dad. He harboured such bitter feelings towards my mum. So I was afraid to raise my voice or argue back incase he said I was a "bit&^" like my mum. He said to me once " life is a b!@#$" then you marry one." I wish he had the decency to move further away from my mum. My mum wasn't happy about him coming to see me to begin with as I was settled in a family, mum dad n brother. My father just wouldn't let sleeping dog's lie.