I found letters once my grandfather died in his study. I kept them to myself and disposed of them once I read them. One was from an Uncle and he said that my father must be disappointed that my mum had a girl.
I can see that being true. My dad would always recount tv programmes he saw. Going on about how women can't go on he front line or on submarines or be a marine etc. Me I was like so what? I don't want to look like swarzaneggar. I wanted to use my brain. I was always going to do something creative. Even know if there's a fight scene in a film my brain wanders and I miss what's going on.
I didn't think much to it, just thought he was still angry with my mum. And later I learnt his own mum. He joined the Army at 15 placing the blame on "her". Who is her, the cats mother?