starrysky sorry for the loss of your ex. It must be so difficult to let go of someone that has been such a part of your life.
I lost my dad a year ago and even though we did not agree on lots of things, I felt like part of me had died when he died. I had to reinvent who I thought I was. It has taken time but I have started to let go of the sadness and start again to live my life every day.
Hope you find support to help you through these sad times.