My girlfriend weighs about 140ish pounds and she is about 5' 4 or 5' 5. I have never in my life been attracted to overweight women, yet she has always been for the 2 years we have been together. I liked her a lot so I stuck with her.

I decided to cross the threshold recently and I told her that I wanted her to lose weight. We switched all our food to organic and low fat. We both belong to a gym but she has not been going. She is avoidant of it and I usually find her sleeping or watching tv. I would love to work out with her and go on hikes, ride bikes, or any number of other active things.....but no luck so far.

She told me she wants me to look at her and be proud and think how beautiful she is....She IS beautiful but the weight makes that harder to see.

I don't want to sound insensitive but lately I have been thinking about other women I know who are in shape....my libido for my girlfriend is suffering badly, and things are getting serious.

What else can I do? Her diet is bad, even with the healthy food. She eats a lot, she eats late, she isnt sacrificing anything.