Yeah, like I said, it's a rabbit hole once you dig into it. I'd throw in another cause of our pain, as I see it.

How about unfulfilled expectations? crashed hopes? real or perceived injustices?This could be relationship or work related.

You've been dreaming about something turning one way, you've been doing all you could to fulfill your dream and then..bum! everything crashed..A person turns out to be not what you thought they were, you haven't advanced on your career path and the work also became a disappointment, your grown children don't seem to need you anymore and don't seem to care much about you, you've just learned that your close friend has been talking trash about you behind your back..the list is endless. There is no shortage of life scenarios in which we feel victimized, mistreated, deceived, betrayed etc...And they are all pretty much the same for everyone. Different stage, different decorations, different specifics..same themes ..like in a theater.

But, yeah, all that goes back to self-image. When some crap happens to us, it re-enforces the negative image of ourselves and the negative belief that if **** always happens to me this can only be because I deserve it, therefore, I am bad..