Good idea.

So I got invited to lunch with two former employees. My boss invited me and I didn't answer right away. And though he can't remember much about work... he asked me again in person just an hour later. Oh and I still didn't answer but he took my non answer as a yes. Blurg. Then one of the people called me said, if I didn't go she would hunt me down -- ha ha.

So I guess I am going. One of the things is that I personally believe that when people leave the workplace... they need to stay gone. Plus.. again, it is just a using issue. It is expected that my boss will stay in touch with them. The idea of their jobs are that they go out and advocate for him and he tries to get better jobs. But I will never need their assistance again... but, they sure as shoot will probably need mine (because I have answers) and they already, asked. But I will never be looking for another job.

I had a good allegory this week about this issue.. I don't know if people watch Supergirl but for the opener Supergirl had suffered a heartbreak and had changed from her happy go lucky person into a more stiff and all business type of person. The show basically was all her friends trying to get her back to the happy go lucky person.

But I kind of had a problem with that. Perhaps the character was simply growing up. And the heartbreak was the lesson that made her realize that her happy go lucky person was a luxury of youth. The friends sort of did seem like users because the happy go lucky person was what they wanted... and seemed unwilling to respect that maybe she had changed and couldn't or wouldn't go back.

I feel a bit like that now. I feel like in my 20s and 30s I was that happy go lucky person who would go out with anyone. I wanted to be "kind" and "nice'. But after 10+ years of people not being kind and nice to me, (i.e... the real world) I kind of can't go back. The blinders are off.

Perhaps I have just become a more selfish person and now.. I seem to be with people who don't really expect that.