I've learned to squirt thru sexual exploration. I'm in my late 40's & a lot more comfortable with my body for different types of orgasms to occur.
When you say "no orgasm" are you referring to just a clitoral orgasm? Bec when I squirt the clitoris is not involved.
Imho most women understand a clitoral orgasm bec that is what we're used to. BUT there are several ways for a woman's body to orgasm & one is a full body orgasm.
And yeah it's messy....but that's the fun part!!!