Hi Fuzzy,

I am sorry you are struggling with this. It's amazing you are even considering possibly forgiving certain people someday. I believe you will do so if and when the timing is ever right for you.

Forgiving doesn't mean you must expose yourself to them again. Forgiving, if and when ready, kind of sets yourself free. At least, that's how it has worked for me.

I have been able to forgive; yet, in many cases, cannot re-acquaint myself, being friends with the abusers. I just cannot take the chance of further abuse.

I can reconcile with lesser events of "differences" with people, quite easily. It's the abusers I tend to keep my distance from, even though I have forgiven. Sometimes, just seeing them across the crowd triggers me.

It's really all about taking care of ourselves and making decisions which help us to heal. This may or may not include forgiveness and/or reconciliation. It's a very individualized matter.

The goal is self-healing. Do that which brings you healing. Be with those who help your being.


WC