works for me.... in theory.... haven't tried it myself in real life. Think I might be too clingy and possessive to really pull it off but it makes sense to me for sure.

My son's dad spends a lot of time here and we function as a family during those times but we don't have an intimate relationship anymore so its more like having family visits. Even there I have to watch myself. Make it too comfortable for him to hang out, get fed, get his laundry and mending done and his visits go on for days and days at a time. I try to balance the game with a list of chores for him to do while hanging with us. He contributes his share of household expenses and is a good dad so its almost a perfect arrangement. Of course should either of us venture into dating or mating it would upset the apple cart but for now it works.

Good to meet you Patty.... my name is Patti too!!