I wanted to be kind to my ex, to work with him when it came to our kids, and to work with him when it came to sharing our assets. Now I feel stupid. We never got on, we never saw eye to eye on issues, or on the children. I think I was trying to pressure him into kind cordial behavior, and he just acted like he always has. I keep learning things about myself, which is good, I guess. Life was getting pretty horrid when I felt like a victim.