i agree. i was trying to think of a supportive comment but i cant. i agree with the thought of, if youre hounding her to lose weight it shouldnt be for your own pleasure, it should be so that the health risks that come along with being overweight are reduced. if you dont find her attractive and youre thinking of other women then maybe you should do her a favor and break up with her instead of making her feel ugly. youre lucky to have a girl that doesnt obsess about her body, dont turn her into one.

im 5'9'' and weigh between 155-160. to me, thats fat because i have always been super thin my whole life. but now ive accepted that no matter what, the way my body is shaped wont change so i gave up trying to be super thin.

have you ever thought that maybe its not because shes fat, maybe thats just her build? some people are built scrawny and petite and some, no matter how hard they try, will always be a little pudgy. that isnt fat and i feel like saying shame on you for ever asking your girlfriend to lose weight just to please you. you dont have her best interest in mind at all and she knows that.

there are very few women left in the world who are okay with the way they look. and i hope to god you are not taking a girl who says things like "im beautiful" and turning her into some neurotic woman like the rest of us who think were ugly and fat. embrace the fact that she is so confident and secure in herself that she doesnt need to go to all ends of the earth just to please a guy who doesnt truly like her in the first place. and if you cant see that and cant love it, then get out of the relationship. never go into a relationship trying to change someone for your own good.