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Originally Posted by captgut
Hmm. I don't know. If he wanted, he would say. I don't think he's trying to hide his feelings.
But... When I said him "I love you" not long ago, he said "I can't use the word "love" with you". But today he said "I love you". I literally died.
So... I don't know. What does he feel? Do I have any chance for a hug?? I think my "desire" for a hug is only my problem. He doesn't have to hug me. I'm confused :/
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Maybe he's not saying because he doesn't want to pressure you.
T never expressed the willingness to hug me (until I asked). She also didn't tell me the want she had in guiding clients, nurturing them (I found out when she wrote a post on her Instagram).
I'm sure T loves you and cares deeply for you. He might decline hugging but that might be due to fear of invading your boundaries (esp if you've a history of physical and/or sexual abuse). You won't know until you ask
It's not wrong or a problem to desire a hug. It means you've a need for some safe, non abusive, affectionate touch.