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Originally Posted by cryingontheinside
I don't think you are alone in your thinking . those two problems mentioned are so minor compared to what a lot of us face .
Its not his fault that he hasn't got bigger problems but to be honest I'm jealous of him if that's all the problems he ever has lol . he probably should not of mentioned it after you telling your deep bigger problems to him ., but nobody is perfect .
Yes it also seems unfair that some of us struggle with life while others glide through it . don't feel like a bad person for thinking that way
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Yes, he's a great guy!
He is jusy very lucky in many aspects. He's supportive but just very naïve on certain things. ^__^;; Thank you for the validation!
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Originally Posted by CepheidVariable
I just wanted to echo and agree with what cryingontheinside posted. I don't have any more to add to that beyond my support and best wishes.
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Thanks so much for the well wishes! I send you my support, too.
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Originally Posted by will19
You're not a jerk at all! I very much liked what you said. I feel that way too. I have my friend. He says that he has never struggled with depression and anxiety. He does not understand it when I feel that way. There are times he just tells me to STOP IT! I've had friends in the past who felt the same way I do. I miss them.
He's happily retired and loaded. He can take nice trips and lives in a fairly nice house. His sister once told me that he could have lived in a much better house and area because he's loaded. I can't even picture myself traveling, never mind retiring. There are times that he and I would not get together on the weekends because he has friends and stuff to do. He's all that I got.
My life is OK, though. I feel like I have it much better than many others. But I know that there are many others that are doing better than I am. For some reason, as I've gotten older, it does not bother me that much anymore.
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I actually can relate to some of the things you've said! I also have a friend and she's the only person I hang out with, besides this friend in my post. They're both great people, but they have their own group of friends, so I feel really lonely a lot.
I'm sorry he told you to just stop it. That's literally not how depression works. Not at all. I wish people were more educated on mental health.
Thanks a lot for your reply. I hope you're doing okay.
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Originally Posted by Winterbritt
You said you "really only know what it's like to struggle." But it sounds like you want to change your circumstances and this guy has it pretty easy it sounds like. Have you considered that maybe being around this guy and seeing his problems that seem minor might give you a valuable perspective on where you're trying to go in life? Even though it might feel frustrating considering your current situation?
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You're right, I do want to change my circumstances, which is why I'm a very hard worker, but I wish I saw some payback, you know?
I work hard because I want my life to be better, and so I can help out my mom because she deserves it. I got my masters degree in forensic mental health counseling last year and I've been looking for a job ever since so I can finally start my own life. The problem is that I'm underexperienced because of my age and lack of job experience, but I'm overexperienced because of my degree, which is really weird. So I've been in a state of limbo. I'm not too sure what you mean, though...Do you mean that seeing his problems as minor might sort of make me feel better because I'm trying so hard and it may pay off in the end? Sorry if I misunderstood you.
I think I get it but I have a difficult time phrasing it.
But you did make me think of something. Seeing him get things so easily and seeing him not work hard sometimes makes me appreciate the things I've received more, because I earned them and I worked hard for them. I THINK that might be what you mean? If so, then thanks a lot for mentioning it. It's a nice perspective to see things from. I have to try to remember that.