AlteredState,

I think it's wonderful that you've come to terms with what you want in life. That's outstanding! I could be wrong, but there seemed to be some sort of an undertone that you have to settle. You don't have to settle. It's a cliche but you have really got to value yourself before anyone else will. I find it extremely hard to believe the only skills you have to offer are housekeeper and decorator, not that those skills should be scoffed at in any way, shape or form! I don't have them, and I'm jealous of those people that can do it so easily.

But there is so much more to you as a PERSON. Appreciate that, and respect it!

I'm not man bashing here, but I'd have to say, the majority of the problem seems to be the men that you have been dealing with.

I know a lot of really decent, attractive men and women, all of whom say they cannot find a partner, but they are not attracted to each other and I cannot figure it out for the life of me.

I attempted to set two of them up, they had a lot of the same interests, but there was no chemistry between the two of them. I don't get it. She wound up marrying a jerk that treats her like %#@&#! (again, her second marriage) and he's dating a woman that is more interested in his bank account than him. When I asked each the reason why it never worked out (years later) I got the same answer from both of them. "He/she's out of my league, it wouldn't have worked out." hmmm