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Originally Posted by shattered sanity
i'm sorry but I disagree.
"goodbye" posts are not allowed, because, in the depression forum (and probably a few other forums), it clearly states the suicide policy and posting a "goodbye" post is upsetting and distressing to members who have tried to help them.
while I agree that delete my account posts can trigger the same response, I don't agree they should be "removed", because, well, for the basic reason that it is freedom of speech.
if someone wants to come on here and post a message that says, I'd like to delete my account, then as distressing as it is, it does allow the members who knew the person to wish them good luck, or what ever they want to do before they delete.
I am still in an agreement with the original idea of this post
a nice sticky thread at the top that is for all people that want to delete
then, if staff don't see the private messxage (for what ever reason), 1 of the other staff- or indeed 1 of the other members can see it and go to that staff member, right, well, this person wanted to delete.
it isn't a bad idea.
i've had worse.
(probably)
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um sorry I also disagree here.....
the idea of freedom of speech is something that comes up frequently... here is the guideline on that....
Hey, I thought this was a democracy! Why was my free speech impinged?
Well, the U.S. Constitution's First Amendment applies to the government -- not private businesses or other organizations. So yeah, we're sorry, but this isn't a democracy and you don't have absolute free speech in our community. As long as your post, PM or chat doesn't violate our community guidelines, it is generally allowed.
(found in FAQ pages)
also members are not being kept from telling their friends goodbye. they just have to pm their friends that they are leaving and why. they can still discuss with their friends by pm their goodbyes. just not where its going to upset the whole community. I have in the past used pm to let members know I was taking an extended leave from the site for what ever reasons. pming works very well. no one on the boards got personally offended or scared I was suicidal and there was no infighting on the boards as my friends and I discussed my leaving for a bit during those times when I did take leave of the site. I think of pming like before there were cell phones. some people had private telephone numbers and private phone line where they could be sure that no one else would over hear their discussions. like a journal where no one else except those designated will get to see their most private thoughts, pming is actually a wonderful tool for saying hello, how you doing, good bye and much much more.. the way I see it its just as easy to make a goodbye pm to friends as it is to make a goodbye thread. pm even allows me to send the same post to more than one friend at the same time.
in other words members are not being prevented from saying goodbye. they just have to do so in the way the site allows by private message to those they want to know.