Oh boy. That is a tough one, and I just want to say how much I feel for you. I've been on both ends of this -- serious sensory/Aspie issues growing up, and then 2 out of my 3 kiddos had the same. My youngest (F) wouldn't/couldn't wear jeans or khakis -- knit pants or sweats ONLY, and the bra thing was quite a tussle. We ended up (after many false starts) going to a very nice department store and having her properly fitted -- and walked out of there with 5 stretchy, wide-strapped little numbers that she actually forgot she was wearing after the first hour or so. It was $$$$, but worth it to not have the tears and begging every morning.

I see you did go the cami route: we did too, for awhile -- but her development soon overtook that. :/ In winter, I let my daughter wear a tank top under sweatshirts, but warmer weather was an issue for clothing.

Does she have friends who are older hands at the bra-wearing? That seemed to help my kiddo, cause they'd go shopping and look at cute undies...lol. She was more willing to try other things as time progressed.

My sympathy! I hated bras as a youngster & Mother was not at all having it. lol

Best,

Chyia, not missing those days at all!